The secret to what women "really" want

It took me a long time to learn what women “really” want.

But it takes a bit of backstory to get me to where I am now.

I know, I know, I can hear the sighs from through the screen. But I promise this will be a good one.

I have always been a good-looking guy.

Not to toot my own horn here, but it is what it is.

The issue wasn’t with my looks, which is what most men these days are obsessed with.

It was my status.

I know some of you can relate to this:

In my school, there were the haves and the have-nots.

In other words, if you didn’t play hockey. You were in an indefinite dry spell.

I am Canadian, so you can insert whichever fast and aggressive sport you'd like,

But most schools are this way.

The reason why is pretty simple.

We are apes at the end of the day.

We form hierarchies based on status. Not always only looks or sex appeal.

I liked a girl. (and she happened to be the hottest girl in the school. I have a good taste what can I say?)

The best part was I had a less attractive friend that grew up with her.

Cha-Ching.

That was my in.

So I did what any dumbass teenager would do.

Asked my friend to set me up with her instead of having the balls to do it myself.

I thought it was a closed case.

That's when my friend gave me the news.

“She says she thinks you are cute but you don't play hockey.”

Ouch.

This was my first interaction with how women, and by extension, life really works.

There is something called “the halo effect”

For you experienced guys,

You can skip this part.

The halo effect is when you have a certain quality that makes you seem perfect.

For women,

This is usually their beauty.

For men,

It's status.

How many friends do you have, how popular you are, and if you follow the herd.

Essentially if you conform and don't ask any questions.

Im sure you can guess that wasn't me.

What was happening here is I didn't have enough social value to be seen as a worthy mate.

Now this isn't to say to work out 80 hours a week and only focus on yourself.

What I am trying to get at here is you need to improve your PERCIEVED VALUE.

Which isn't always the same as the actual value.

Men establish dominance, (a tough-sounding word for mating rights)

Through leadership qualities.

How well do you lead, how confident you are under pressure, and how many people defer to you for what t-shirt and fashion trend to hop on.

This is not an easy task.

The only thing you can do is get 1% better every day.

And I didn't just toss that pun in because it was awesome. (which it is.)

But over time the power of compound interest will take over and you’ll effortlessly become the man that men want to be, and other women want to…

You know.

So make it a point to beat yesterday’s score, and watch you raise in status slowly but surely.

Welcome to the 1%.

-Luka Grey